Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Get Out The Big Girl Panties!

Lately, I've had a lot going on and oodles of stuff has come to my attention. For starters, I consider myself a newbie in the writing world even though I've published numerous works. Going on my third year, and no, I'm not rich. *rushes out to buy a powerball ticket*

The world of writing is tough, real tough. First, one needs to write a story worth publishing. Second, edits are a bitch...or can be. I swear, once you hone your craft you'll get better, and edits get easier. I promise.

What is more difficult than writing or edits is facing readers with said work that graces the world. *Big Panty Time*

Things you should know:

1. You will not please everyone. Seriously, if you can, I want your secret.
2. Likely, at some point and time, you will cry. It'll happen.
3. You have two options: You can put on your big girl panties and keep going. Or, you can allow it all to defeat you. Stick to the first option.
4. You're not going to retire right away.

If you're writing to get rich quick....Ummm, maybe you should just play the lottery. You have to love to write and enjoy what you do if for no other reason than to appease the voices in your head.

Also, at some point you will attract strange people. Geeesh! Yeah, I've had a few and normally I'm a super nice person. I'm so nice I hate to unfriend on FB because I don't want to hurt feelings. Yeah, I'm that nice. Anyway, strange people will do anything to get your attention. This happened lately, a guy tells me he's writing a book. Swell, get busy, dude. Next, he asks for advice. Okay, sure, what do ya want to know? I don't mind to help, but in reality, the best advice I can give is: Read, read, and read in the genre you're trying to write in. Seriously, reading is the best advice I can give. But me, no, I'm too nice. I get a snippet from said "new author". Oh, dear god, I wanted to gag, and it wasn't that his writing was bad, but the content. Yikes! Do yourself a favor, unfriend, likely the person is someone with fantasies who targets writers of romance to chat with. *Unfriend...Big panty moment*

Another piece of super swell advice. Don't friend or follow someone and immediately ask them to "like" your page or promo you. And do not for any reason post your promo directly on their timeline. There are tons of book promo groups on FB to promo on. Don't try to piggyback by using another author's page. *Big Girl Panties* Do the work yourself.

Do use the appropriate places to promo. I'm not a great promo guru, but I'm sure someone out there has some great advice. Research. I wasn't great at formatting my book for Kindle. Guess what? There is a book that will tell you step by step how to do it! Yay! The same goes for a lot of questions you may have. Use the appropriate sources to get what you need.

All of it is trial and error. Learn from mistakes and read as much as you can. I've purchased books on formatting for Kindle, dialog for fiction writers, as well as numerous works in various genres. To go into writing without any study or intent to learn is like going to work in a steel mill without safety glasses. *Big Girl Panties* Hone your craft by reading, researching, and learning.

Last, but certainly not least. I should warn, junior high didn't stop way back when. Yes, you will encounter drama. *smacks head on table* Some people are incapable of growing up. There are virtually oodles of ways to get sucked into drama. Over the last few years I've watched many unfortunate events unfold. I'll break down key points, and it isn't that they have personally happened to me, but the negative aspects have stayed with me.

1. Do not by any means slander other author's works, i.e. Facebook, Goodreads, name a few. Nothing will make you look more petty and childish than rating fellow author's books poorly. And no, it won't make your sales increase.
2. Don't open fake accounts to use for purpose of above mentioned dastardly deeds. Someone will figure it out. I promise.
3. If you don't like what someone posts on FB, don't slander them for what they like or believe. Unfriend, but don't be an asshole.

Overall, just be kind. In this era, where so many people hide behind a computer, people say things they'd never say in person. A computer gives a certain amount of anonymity, but it is false. People should not say anything if they don't have anything nice to say. Sad, but true, most don't live by this simple motto. When you put your words out there expect to have them attacked in some form or another. Don't take them to heart! One person's cup of tea isn't necessarily for everyone. *Big Panties* Put out a free read and you'll catch what I'm talking about. Instead of a, "Hey, thanks for the free read...." Yeah, doesn't matter. Suck it up!

Do what you love, and if writing is your true love, do it. Don't expect the world to love it or you will be crushed. Even the most well known authors, highest paid, and best advertised get negative reviews. Keep going, keep trying, and ignore negative feedback. Read, read, read, and read some more. There is no better way to learn than reading. Be kind and don't do to others something you wouldn't want to have done to you. Words can be liberating, and take us to new places, or they can be mean and hurtful.

In conclusion:

1. Read, read, read.
2. Don't be an A-hole.
3. Be courtesy and kind.
4. Don't piggypack.
5. Eliminate negatives and strange people on FB.
6. If you don't like something...well, pretty simple. Unfriend, but don't be and A-hole.
7. Don't expect Ed McMahon to deliver your first royalty check. Seriously, he's dead, and you're not going to retire.
8. If you don't know who Ed McMahon is then you're too young to be reading my blog.
9. Haters are gonna hate.
10. Drama didn't end in junior high.
11. Ooo, last minute, don't respond to negative feedback about your work! It's your baby, your work, but don't do it! I think Buford T. Justice sums this point up nicely.

Did I miss anything? Let's see, kind, courteous, don't be an A-hole, Ed McMahon won't deliver first royalty check, read, study, and learn, avoid drama, don't post promo on someone's timeline on FB, don't friend someone and immediately ask them to like your page, don't respond to negative reviews, put on your big girl panties... Hmmmm, I think I've covered it.

Writing and publishing isn't easy. It isn't a get rich quick scheme. And it definitely isn't for the faint of heart or for those easily injured. Learn from constructive feedback and ignore the haters. Some people have nothing better to do. 


  1. **LOUD APPLAUSE** You nailed it, my friend!! Well done!! Sharing all over the place. <3

  2. Hennessee, I freaking loved this! What a terrific post! I'm so sharing it everywhere that I can.

  3. Great post! You totally nailed it - online etiquette is so important, but it isn't rocket science. Great tips for burgeoning writers.

  4. Thanks, Janel! Being kind and courtesy is the first step of success :D