Sunday, July 5, 2015

Thinking Out Loud

I have been plagued recently with an over-active thinking mind. This, in turn, is getting in the way of my creative side. I'm not sure if I'm just an ass or just grew up in a different time. I came from a generation that respected their elders. I came from a family that just struggled to get by with integrity and honesty. Never do I remember my family teaching me to hate others because they were different. Not once do I remember hearing the type of bullshit in the media that I see today. Then again, we didn't have the internet, most times, we couldn't even afford to have a phone. 

I have entered a time where someone else wants to tell me what I should and shouldn't see. How I should and shouldn't feel.

I had older brothers, and they watched, religiously I might add, The Dukes of Hazzard. Funny thing about these 'good ol' boys', I don't recall the show ever spreading hate, discontent, or even encouraging as much. I do remember them fighting against the oppressive local law, that was determined to do them in, but I don't remember them doing anything but good for other people. They cared about family and friends, people they didn't even know. But they had a Confederate flag on the car! Different times people. If you view it as racist, fine, that's your right. I have a ten year old that is upset that she can't watch the show on TV Land. I'll tell ya what, I'd much rather her watch The Dukes of Hazzard than any of the crap on TV today. In that show, family matter, friends mattered, honesty mattered. I can't recall a single episode that even spouted one racial slur, and believe me, I've watched most all of them. 

My gripe about all this is simple...if you don't like it, don't watch it. Furthermore, if anything bothers you, don't watch it or do it. I sort of thought the Forth of July meant something. I thought the word, FREEDOM, meant something. Freedom of speech, freedom of religion, freedom to live as we see fit. Ummm, somebody missed the memo. This isn't about the damn Confederate flag, because it is irrelevant. My beef is deeper and goes way beyond it. The simple fact...we are being told what we can't and can't watch, what we can and can't do, what can and can't say. WTF? 

I am not proud of this county's heritage involving slavery. Of all the things that disgust me the most, enslaving people chills me to the bone. It makes me sick. I've read tales that will make you cry in the Slave Narratives the WPA published years ago. If you haven't read them, I suggest do so. People are people no matter their race or religion. 

What I'm saying is that the HATE in this county is out of control. I will not and cannot accept responsibility for acts people committed that came before me. Yes, it bothers me, it bothers me a lot, but I can't change it, nobody can. All we can do is go from today and be better people, be good to each other. We need to stop living in the past. WE CAN'T CHANGE IT! Again, all we can do is OVERCOME IT. All of us are just people, trying to make the best of life, raising our families, and wanting to be happy.

This brings me to my next complaint about the world. Let me illustrate. I seriously can't stand WWE wrestling. I'm watching TV and it comes on. Guess what? I turn the damn channel. Just because I don't like, doesn't mean that someone else doesn't. But I really freaking hate it. Should I shout out about it, in hopes that I can spread my hate, hoping that I can sway the feelings of others? Don't other people have the right to watch what they want? This brings me to crap on Facebook with images being reported. To the people responsible for doing this, GROW UP! Apparently, you're an adult. Change the damn channel! Unfollow the person, click, 'I'd rather not see this type of post', yes, you can do that. And who are you anyway? A representative for morals that don't exist anymore? Come on, I was having dinner with my kids the other night and commercial for erectile dysfunction came on. There is more nudity and crap on TV than Facebook. Grow up! You have the freedom to choose who you follow. Use it and stop reporting stuff that others may want to see. Just because it isn't your cup or tea, doesn't mean it isn't for someone else. Stop trying to dictate what others may want to see. It isn't your right to inhibit others. 

Oh, there's more. This country is made up of immigrants that stretch back to well, THE MAYFLOWER! Our country is comprised of various races, religions, and sexual orientation. Gay isn't a new phenomena that occurred in the last fifty or so years. People have been gay or indulged in gay sex since the beginning of time, which predates most and all, religions. If you don't want to be gay, DON'T. If you don't like smoking, don't do it. If you hate carnations, don't buy them. Come on!! What gives anyone the right to judge anyone else??? Did I mention I've studied ancient religions for years? Don't pick stuff out of the Bible that you like and try to use it to inhibit another person's happiness. Don't do it.

Matthew 7:1-3King James Version (KJV)
7 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.

3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?

I do not follow any religion, even though I grew up attending a Free Will Baptist church. This scripture is for those 'holier than thou' and ought to make you consider the hate you are spreading. It isn't YOUR job to judge people. If you follow, like you should, you are to spread love, not hate. Just because you disagree, doesn't give you the right to inhibit another person's happiness. Again, if you don't like it, well, just mind your own business. Likely, the skeletons in your closet are begging to fall out. Unfollow, don't look, mind your own business, grow up!

To all those quitting their jobs where marriage licences are being given. GREAT! Someone else needs a job. And that's what your position is and was, a JOB. Moral compass aside, you were being paid to do a job, if you can't do said job, move on, someone else will happily take it.

To all the pastors out there who claimed and said publicly, I might add, that you would set fire to yourselves if gay marriage was passed. DO IT. I'm waiting. Put your money where your mouth is. Who are you? Why are you 'better' than anyone else in this country granted FREEDOM? If you don't like it, take your flock and bitch about it in your own congregation. I for one, don't want to hear it.

For me, I see the world and our existence in very simple terms. Life is an uphill battle. I don't know a person who hasn't struggled or hoped for a better life. I'm one of them. I grew up poor, but always strived to be better, to do better. All anyone wants, regardless of race, religion, or sexual orientation is to be happy. To find love, in spite of all the bullshit in the world is like winning the lottery. Be respectful to others. It may be your castle crumpling to the ground tomorrow.

All we should be doing, is seeking OUR own happiness, rather than dictating how others should find theirs. That's all I do, seek my own happiness, and try to encourage others to do what makes them happy. I'm struggling though, moving further back in my introverted shell. I don't like what this country is coming to. I despise the hate. I despise negativity. I just like to laugh and have fun. When I leave this world, lack of friends and all, I hope that the one thing people remember about me is that I liked to laugh and make others laugh. I hope to be remembered as a person that treated others equally and without prejudice. How many of you can claim the same?  Why would you want anything else?

1 comment:

  1. I think what I like most about this post is the idea of taking responsibility for your happiness and don't worry so much about others' happiness. No one asked "you" to police others. I catch my oldest kid doing that to the youngest, and I remind them both to worry about themselves, not what others are doing. I'm trying to teach them to like what they love, and move on from things they don't like, but don't try to change others who like it. Good post, Hennessee, and I hope you find the happiness of your own. :)